Parenting Tips: Help you Kids go all out for Something, Sports for Kids, Coaching and Parenting Advice

//Parenting Tips: Help you Kids go all out for Something, Sports for Kids, Coaching and Parenting Advice

Sports can teach us a lot. As a mom, I’m sure you’re looking for ways to help your child develop and mature. In our culture, sports has a high place in terms of helping kids get a measure of themselves, their talents, their strength’s, their ability to perform under pressure. If they do well, it’s a boost for their self esteem. If they do less well, it can be used as a “life lesson” on failure and what one can do to overcome it. It’s all in the attitude the player adopts, and that’s where a mom can help.

You can have a conversation with your child about what she or he wants to do in school that would inspire. What would be a nice challenge and a lot of fun? Sports, especially basketball, was the area where I had a lot of success and it greatly shaped my self image. I think if I had failed, it would have been difficult because my parents didn’t talk much about such things. My mom was a tennis player of some success, my dad was non-athletic, a musician. You, the mom, can get involved and help shape the experience into a life lesson, no matter what happens.

Let me talk about how you could coach and inspire your child in a way of being I’ll call “Going all out!” Let’s assume basketball is the sport of choice.

Describe to your child that, as the season starts and s/he goes out for basketball practice, hoping to get chosen on the team, to play more minutes, to get more shots, or whatever, realize that one has to ASK for things in life! It’s important to really "GO" for what you want, and asking for coaching is part of that. We all need coaching (also called mentoring) in our lives to excel. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Describe how you can live your life passively — and that’s how most people live it — or you can live it actively. I can say this because I can see how much I lived my life passively. I didn’t know what I wanted to do or learn or achieve, and I didn’t know to ask. I was lucky in that I was athletic and coordinated and I had sports to fall back on. That’s where I shined, but if you had asked me to perform in some other arena, I would have been petrified.

My coaching for you is to ask your child to think about what s/he wants in basketball, and then ask for help getting it. Don’t be afraid to ask the coach what s/he feels you need to develop, for example. It might be dribbling, shooting, defense, or team play. Whatever it is, ask for coaching in how to improve in those areas. Ask mom or an older sibling or an accomplished friend to help you. People LOVE to be asked to help!

That will get your child started. Include in the plan that your child include you in discussions and thoughts about what’s occurring. And when s/he practices and plays, observe where the strengths and weaknesses are and find a way to work on the latter. This idea of focusing on what you want to achieve and then asking for help getting it will be useful your entire life. Don’t think you have to do it all by yourself!

The subject is how to "Master" things in our lives. I have a great book to recommend for both you and your child entitled, surprisingly, "Mastery," by George Leonard. It’s available on for $5-$10. It’s very short and easy to read for a younger person. With your guidance the messages will easily be understood. It’s about the process of Mastery, something we all can strive for at every stage of our lives. It describes how society is anti-mastery, with it’s quick fixes, short attention spans, "buy this and be happy" mentality.

With your coaching, your child can take another path … the path of Mastery! From the book she or he will learn to honor and love practice, the daily or weekly things one does to advance one’s abilities. You’ll come to expect and love the plateaus, the times when you don’t seem to be making any improvement. And you’ll learn to develop staying power for the things you love and wish to learn. Switching paths all the time is not practicing Mastery.

My Swish videos and my articles here and on my website reveal a way to master the physical skill of shooting. That skill can vault your child to a higher place on a team and a growing self image. My teaching simplifies the skill, but she or he will still have to spend the time and pay attention to learn it. With your help, it can be an exciting journey, and the rewards can be very good, maybe great, but if your child gets depressed or bored easily and keeps dropping off the path, nothing will be mastered. It can be a great lesson either way!

The book will give you some great coaching. Share it with your child, put it into practice, and let me know how it affects your child.

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2018-06-27T16:05:09+00:00 June 27th, 2018|Categories: Discover Cities in My Online World|Tags: |