Love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike. Couples who are in a relationship, where they do not share common interest at all other than overwhelming physical desire for one another, may be just lust. A couple who is truly in love will not care about the activity they are having, because they simply enjoy each other’s company.
In order to find the difference between love & lust the following questions should be answered carefully:
Do you really care for his safety & happiness?
When in a conflict are you able to talk to the other person in a very open, calm and frank discussion, without losing your temper?
Can you talk to him about anything under the sun? Or is it just always sweet talk and things about sex?
Do you enjoy each other’s company, regardless of the activity?
Are you able to accept the other person when he is not at his best physical condition or appearance?
Are you willing to spend time with the other person even without having sex?
Do you have a mutual respect for the other person?
Here are some facts to differentiate love from lust:
LUST
You are totally focused on his looks and body.
You don’t bother to return his calls and you can easily go for days without talking to him.
You only want to be with him to have sex.
You leave after sex [find easy ways].
LOVE
You have a great chemistry.
You want to spend time with him.
You see a future together.
You introduce him to your family.
You include him in your plans.
He makes you want to be a better woman.
Three important points that distinguish love from lust:
The way it makes us feel
The dynamics of our interaction
The focus of our attention
[Corinthians 13:1]
Here are some fun facts [which are quite true] which I came across about the difference of love and lust:
LOVE - When your eyes meet across a crowded room.
LUST - When your tongues meet across a crowded room.
LOVE - When intercourse is called making love.
LUST - When intercourse is called screwing.
LOVE -When you share everything you own.
LUST - When you steal everything they own.
LOVE - When it doesn’t matter if you don’t climax.
LUST -When the relationship is over if you don’t climax.
LOVE - When your heart flutters every time you see them.
LUST - When your groin twitches every time you see them.
LOVE - When all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel.
LUST - When all the songs on the radio determine how you do it.
LOVE -When breaking up is something you try not to think about.
LUST -When staying together is something you try not to think about.
LOVE - When you’re only interested in doing things with your partner.
LUST -When you’re only interested in doing things TO your partner.
LOVE -When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and talk.
LUST -When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and have sex.
LOVE - You only leave the house for coffee and doughnuts.
LUST - You only leave the house for condoms and Vaseline.
Lust and love are separated by a very thin line. Therefore, it is important for you to be able to tell the difference in order to save you from wasting time presuming a relationship that is destined to fail.
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