Marriage begins with a promise between a man and a woman to honor and cleave to each other for life. Too many couples depend on love to keep their marriage together, but commitment is the adhesive of marriage, and love is the reward of keeping the promise o stand beside each other through both good and bad times, in both sickness and in health, in both poverty and wealthy. The process of keeping that promise is what makes love grow between the two of them.

The cause of most marital conflict is not because they are from “different planets” or genders. The more common, everyday conflict occurs when two opposite personality types try to make a joint decision. They simply see the situation from vastly different perspectives – which can lead to great consternation when there is a lack of deep appreciation and understanding of the other’s approach. If you want to improve the quality of your marriage, an essential ingredient is the degree of understanding and appreciation of the other’s approach to issues due to their personality bias.

As you start your new life you will have many misunderstandings [not in the beginning though]. But it will take some time for both of you to discover the small things don’t matter as much as anymore, and you each learn to compromise on certain issues.

A married woman should always be very careful how she receives personal compliments. She should never court them, nor ever feel flattered by them, whether in her husband’s presence or not. If in his presence, they can hardly fail to be distasteful to him; if in his absence, a lady by a dignified demeanor may always convince an assiduous admirer that his attentions are not well received, and at once and for ever stop all familiar advances.

Keep in mind that your husbands are men. And men eat. Wives have to study their husband’s peculiar likes and dislikes in this matter. Let the wife try, therefore, if she has not already done so, to get up a little knowledge of the art of ordering dinner, to say the least of it. This task, if she disposed to learn it, will in time be easy enough; moreover, if in addition she should acquire some practical knowledge of cookery, she will find ample reward in the gratification it will be the means of affording her husband.

An observance of the few following rules will in all probability ensure a life of domestic harmony, peace and comfort:

To hear as little as possible whatever is to the prejudice of others; to believe nothing of the kind until you are compelled to admit the truth of it; never to take part in the circulation of evil report and idle gossip; always to moderate, as far as possible, harsh and unkind expressions reflecting upon others; always to believe that if the other side were heard, a very different account might be given of the matter.

In conclusion, emphatically to the newly – wedded wife, that attention to these practical hints will prolong her honeymoon throughout the whole period of wedded life, and cause her husband, as each year adds to the sum of his happiness, to bless the day when he first chose her as the nucleus round which he might consolidate the in estimate blessings of home.

When times of trouble these are the two advices I can give:

Bite your tongue [before hurting him with your words]

Give kindness; after all you love each other that you started a new life together.