As we all know going on a first date can be very scary and intimidating. Our minds are overcome with fear and insecurities and we cave in to those emotions. We’re nervous about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and we’re anxious about what our date will think of us. All these anxieties are totally human and completely understandable.
“Honesty does pay off on first dates”, one part of the population does argue that it is true. They also say “Always be truthful about your personality. Depending on your comfort and easiness, tell about your past honestly. Do not make any pretensions about who you are. The more you pretend, the higher the tendencies of your failure towards your first date. A first date will always be important, so are with first impressions. Fact is, only three dating activities and after, the person may likely tell if the relationship works or not.”
Honesty may be the best policy, but when is romance you’re talking about, maybe it isn’t. That doesn’t mean you have to be dishonest. Romance is all about mystery and intrigue. Once you reveal “the real you” to your partner on the first date chances are that the excitement will soon run out as he won’t have much more to discover in the dates ahead. By lengthening the process of discovery, you are building a strong foundation for the relationship. And don’t forget that when some men get to know all of you, they’re not interested any longer. So if you want to ensure that the interest in the relationship is sustained, make sure that you have something new to reveal every time.
But as we all know us women we appreciate honest men. But why do men keep being dishonest; especially on first dates? Here are top five statements to this question:
- Honesty is seen as being weak.
- Truth hurts – depending on the severity of the cut.
- Talking about your past or sharing too much damaging information can harm a relationship’s potential future.
- Women prefer mystery and prefer “bad” men.
- Men aren’t capable of telling the truth.
Leave the men aside, we women have to know that, honesty does show integrity and character. Truth can hurt. But would you rather tell lies and cause more potential damage down the road when the lies reveal themselves? Use your discretion. Honesty does not mean that you have to share your life’s novel with your date. Mystery is good and healthy for any relationships. However being closed off to every question your date poses will shut it down in a hurry. Mystery and honesty in healthy balances make a dating relationship healthy. And remember men are capable of telling the truth.
So be honest “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not”.