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Before we go to see whether true love is a myth or not this is a question that most of us seek the answer for “CAN YOU EVER FIND ANOTHER TRUE LOVE AND EVERYTHING FEEL AS GOOD AS WHEN YOU WERE WITH YOUR FIRST LOVE?”. Well according to wikianswers.com - nothing is ever the same as the first love, with you first love is the absolute belief that it will never end, after that you are the wiser. But trust me when you say you feel true love again. It may take a while, but when you find the right one, you will feel a joy so uplifting, nothing will compare. Your first love times a hundred that’s how much you will love your true love. That’s how much moments you will spend with them will feel like, etc… So the answer is YES and it will be even better.
Coming to the point, there are two arguments for this question “TRUE LOVE – IS IT A MYTH?”
The first one is that true love is indeed a myth. The problem with true love in the movies is that they always end when the guy gets the girl or vice versa. They don’t describe what happens after that [marriage, etc]. As an example if we take the movies Speed and Speed 2. In Speed Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock fall in love at the end and all looks good. But, at the beginning of Speed 2 they have broken up. At least it gave an honest portrayal of what happens after the movie – true love doesn’t last.
Here are some of the aspects that people mistake for true love:
- The need for validation – there is nothing like having an attractive person of the opposite sex profess attraction to you. Validation is addictive, it happens once and it feels so good you need it to happen again and again.
- Sexual attraction – Someone you want to have sex with, but who doesn’t presently want to have sex with you, nothing makes them more attractive. Attraction grows into a yearning, which, if it continues for too long matures into…….
- Obsession – It’s easy to fixate on all the things we can’t have. Fixation is not love.
People need something mystical and difficult to find to give them a reason to go on, motivation and hope for living. Lots of divorces happen every day to people who once swore that they had met the person for them, the only one they could see themselves with for the rest of their lives. So the idea of having a missing half, someone who will make you feel complete, make your days happier and more hopeful, is a warm, sentimental notion that is pretty much complete foolishness.
On the other hand true love is not a myth:
Cupid the Roman god of Love had a mortal maiden wife named Psyche... On the condition that he would join her only at night so he never saw his face. Their dark nights together were full of love and passion; though Psyche had a fear that her loving husband might also be an ugly monster! At the urging of her sisters she hid a knife and candle by their bed one evening before he came. After Cupid fell asleep, Psyche silently stole out of bed and lit the candle. As she held the light up to his face she saw not an evil ugly beast….but a most handsome young man with wings. In her surprise, she spilled some candle wax on his sleeping face. Cupid cried, “O foolish Psyche! Is it thus you repay my love? But go; return to your sisters whose advice you seem to think preferable to mine! I inflict no punishment on you, other than to leave you forever.
We too have our insecurities which blinds us to a true love which waits before our very eyes! Just like the maiden Psyche. Love is a spiritual affinity – a meeting of two souls on a level that mere senses cannot divine, nor mind can explain. We sometimes call it chemistry – that attraction and reaction which occurs when certain people meet. If it’s a sexual attraction but lacks a spiritual affinity, then it is lust. A spiritual affinity without sexual attraction is deep friendship. But all combined in a balanced level is known as true love.
Generally speaking, all ‘true love relationships’ require at least some measure of each of these. The important thing to remember is that they come in stages, which is not to say that the physical attraction passes as one moves into a deeper connection. It is believed by virtually everyone that true love cannot exist without chemistry. Therefore, the conclusion most would be lovers come to is that if they experience these intense feelings towards someone, they have the basis for an ideal and lasting relationship.
It is up to you to choose to believe whether true love is a myth or not. Remember not to confuse great sex or deep friendship with romantic true love. Instead look for a measure of both of these in your feelings for another. For then you have the ingredient that lasting love is made of. |
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