The definition for adultery according to answers.com is the voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse. Adultery is devastating to any marriage, regardless of the circumstances under which adultery might have occurred. Unfortunately, adultery is all too common is the cause of pain and anguish to many couples.
According to an adultery poll of over 500 women conducted by WomanSavers.com, over 64% of women would not forgive their partner if he had a sexual affair.
You must consider your options carefully on whether or not you choose to take back your cheating man. It is a great quandary to choose between staying in the marriage and leaving the marriage. Here are some points to ponder over before making the decision:
Think about whether you want to save the marriage or just end it.
List down the reasons why you want to either save your marriage or end your marriage.
If spouse is a good parent; think about the immeasurable hardships your children will face if you both decide on ending the marriage.
Are you willing to tolerate a great deal of disappointment and pain for the sake of the marriage?
In order to build an affair proof marriage it is vital to meet a spouse’s needs. Here are 5 main needs of a husband that should be fulfilled, in an instance where these are unmet, that person becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair:
Sexual fulfillment – sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough affection.
Recreational companionship – he needs her to be his playmate. Join him in hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching movies and sports they would have never chosen on their own.
Need to have an attractive wife – A man’s need for physical attractiveness in mate is profound.
Domestic support – He needs peace and quiet. He needs his wife to take care of things – especially him.
Admiration – He needs her to be proud of him, which inspires him to achieve more.
When you get to know that your husband is cheating on you, you feel like as if someone has either punched you in the stomach or stabbed you in the back – or even both. But always remember it’s not your fault, sure you have done some things wrong in your relationship, but you didn’t force your spouse to commit adultery – they chose to do it.
An affair doesn’t’ have to cause the devastation, hurt and pain that you are feeling right now; there is a better way out. Talk calmly and openly about everything [how to solve this issue, etc] to your spouse and think and make a good decision.
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