Things to Remember About the Teen Years

Teen age is tough!
It takes one teen to know another. And sometimes even that is not possible. All parents out there- please try to remember yourself your teen years whenever you are clueless about how to deal with your kid. It may not make him/her behave but at least you establish an understanding. Having a sympathetic attitude when you are giving advice usually registers better with teens, rather than using an angry tone. Guide them even when they don’t seem to want to listen.

Change is part of being a teen
Tomorrow is never like today, in the life of a teen. Minor matters may be blown out of proportion but that’s the usual way. Don’t be too perturbed by changes in habit and lifestyle-unless you feel there is a danger of gang involvement or drug experimenting.

There is no teen stereotype
Don’t let anyone tell you that all teens are troublemakers. This is not true. Get to know your teen and allow him/her a chance to show you the true character inside.

Positive communication
If your teen does not encourage communication, don’t just give up or give the silent treatment. Be patient and try to understand the reason for such behavior. If you are downright confused, ask directly what’s bothering him/her. Never nag a teen, it will turn him/her away from you and make you seem on ‘the other side’. Let your kid know that you are always available for a chat.

Fun vs. responsibility
There is a fine line between fun and risk and your teen should have no doubts about this! Pointing out that responsibility will win your trust. Show your appreciation when your teen acts in a sensible way.

Setting clearly defined limits.
Testing limits is a turn on for some teens. They are constantly challenging parents. Don’t let them get away with this. Show them love but show them that you mean business too!

Room to grow
Let your teen become an individual. To much coercing and influencing is not going to achieve that. If teens don’t get space, they won’t get close to the parents.

Teens need your support
Let them set goals for themselves and help them achieve them! Always be around to offer support and words of encouragement. It’ll make a big difference to your relationship.

Peer pressure
There is no way to protect your child from this 100% but do stay alert for any signs that can mean he is at risk. Try to get to know the people your teen is hanging out with.